ABS OR BICEPS?

DO WOMEN WANT A MAN WITH A SEXY PHYSIQUE ? OR DO WE WANT A RICH MAN? OR A MAN WHO KNOWS HOW TO LOVE?

What do we girls want? A billionaire man? A man with defined abs, big biceps, and veiny arms? A tall man with good skin and hair? With good dressing style and music taste as well?

What exactly do we seek?

If you ask me what I want…I’d tell you —

I want a man who doesn’t raise his voice to feel powerful or to establish a point, but softens it to protect my peace. I want my man to calm me down because loud arguments make me uncomfortable.

I want someone who doesn’t walk away when I raise my voice, but stays long enough to hear the pain behind it. Someone who never uses love as a weapon, and never makes me beg for effort. Someone who never manipulates or disrespects me… or insults me, even in the name of fun.
Someone who chooses understanding over arguments, peace over power, and me… again and again.
Someone who makes me feel safe, even when I don’t feel okay with myself.

Someone who knows my anger isn’t cruelty… It’s the voice of old wounds trying to protect me.
I want him not to fight my storms with storms, but with silence, patience, and steady love.

I want him to see that when I get angry, it’s not out of hate, but from past scars that still sting when I feel misunderstood.

I want someone who understands that my silence isn’t attitude…it’s emotion, exhaustion, or pain I don’t know how to put into words. I can’t express what I’m going through. I can’t always ask for solutions to my problems. Sometimes, I can’t speak up. I just need silence.
I want someone who doesn’t ask, “Why so quiet?” but gently stays beside me, knowing that presence speaks louder than pressure.

Someone who doesn’t think that speaking in English means I’m being rude, but knows that’s just how I express myself sometimes.
Someone who listens to my silence and doesn’t need loud words to know something’s wrong..

I want my man to understand that sometimes, I disappear…I get lost within my own mess. I need him to maturely deal with my mood swings and understand that my love for him hasn’t changed. I want him to know that my heart is pure, even when my reactions aren’t perfect.

I want him to understand me even when I can’t explain myself.
I want him to be patient with me… and stay patient, not just when I’m calm, but when I’m overwhelmed, emotional, or overthinking.

I want someone who doesn’t get scared by my fire, but instead learns to hold it without getting burned. And if needed, he’s willing to burn.

I want someone who hears the “I’m fine” and still asks again, just to be sure.
Someone who won’t leave when I push away, but stays and says, “I’m not going anywhere.”

My man may not be a gym freak, but he should care about emotional safety, late-night talks, and quiet comfort.
He should make me feel safe…not by being perfect, but by choosing me through the imperfect moments too.
A man who’s ready to change himself for me. He’s ready to work hard. Just to build a happy future for us.
A man who’s ready to take responsibility for being a caring husband and a father.

I want someone who has eyes only for me. A man who trusts me. And I can trust him.
I want him to understand that I can have male friends too.

I want someone who makes me feel protected but not restricted or caged.

Someone who’s honest and respectful. A man who’s respectable himself. A man to be proud of. Someone who doesn’t drink or smoke or waste his time on meaningless distractions.

I want someone who’ll be my BIGGEST supporter. A man with whom I can live my dreams. Someone with whom our relationship will grow stronger day by day.
Someone who won’t let me sleep without settling an argument or me being upset. Someone who can feel my tears.
Someone who doesn’t force me or use his strengths against mine. Someone who always puts me before everything.Someone who never changes, just like seasons…who remains steady, no matter how many storms we face.
Someone who sees my heart even in my chaos.

Maybe most of the women would agree with me. I know some of them won’t. Because to some, her man having back muscles or biceps to flex is a turn-on. They’ll choose to adjust to that 6ft muscular body, even if they get ‘used’ or are abused. At least they can show off that they are dating a hot boy.
Some women prefer to stay with their billionaire husbands even after they know that their husbands are cheating on them. At least they are getting the money for their makeup and self-care products, and they can travel with their private jet (or shower in a bathtub made of gold).

But for girls like me? For us… Love letters, deep conversations, and flowers mean more than expensive gifts. We crave attention, loyalty, and selfless love. We want our scars to be adored….Our insecurities need to be hugged.
We want security more than anything else. We want a safe place to open up our secrets…a place where our darkness finds a ray of light. We want a home to return to in this cruel world.

We want a man who’ll give us a garden full of butterflies... not to kill them later, but to keep the butterflies safe. A man who’ll grow the garden with his eternal love.

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