You’ve beautifully expressed what every girl's heart silently craves—a love that’s soft, steady, and never adds to our pain,never manipulates. A man who doesn’t shout in our storms but holds us through them. Thank you for putting our deepest feelings into such powerful words. Agreed totally with you.🩷
I am firm believer that women manipulate and disrespect more then men. A true masculine man does not need those two to pump up his ego. A man should not change himself for a woman, but he should adapt to certain extent. And I think a woman should learn how to show at least a glimpse of her heart to a man even in her chaos, because you never know what a man is going thru. We do not share that.
Now most of this what you’ve written is beautifully said. Now what a woman is willing to offer in return, for a man to be willing to give all of this?
The man you're describing is doing the bare minimum of what healthy masculinity should look like being stable, kind, and not manipulative isn't rare, it's basic.
And as for what a woman offers she offers everything if you treat her right.
Her heart, her softness, her loyalty, her chaos, her calm, her dreams, her support, her fire.
But you’ll only see it if you’ve created a space where she feels safe to be all of that.
Maybe the better question iscan you hold space for that kind of love?
Interesting topic and insightful revelations...Interesting, isn't it? A writer can never be a quiet reader, coz they hear the echo in the pages first not the silence. A writer can't simply consume. They always metabolize. And maybe that’s the cost of becoming the page instead of only turning it.
So here I submit to you the outcome of what you inspired as your piece became a prompt for me.
This is a confession, not a conclusion.
It’s written from a man’s lens...
Which means it's half-blind.
So to the women who read this,
Feel free to disagree, derail, or demand better.
Because what follows next
Is what I have witnessed,
Not all that exists.
What do women seek?
Not just love.
But clarity.
Not just protection.
But a man who doesn't need to be feared to feel powerful.
Women seek presence.
Not proximity.
A man who stays when she’s unraveling...
Not one who mistakes her softness for stability
And bolts when it frays.
They seek a mind that listens
And a heart that doesn’t hide behind intellect.
They seek safety....
Not the kind that locks the doors
But the kind that lets her open hers.
They want to be seen,
Beyond their body,
Yet still desired within it.
To be held,
Not handled.
To be chosen,
Not settled for.
What do men offer?
Too often..
We offer potential.
A someday version of ourselves.
A plan,
A dream,
An ambition,
But rarely the emotional scaffolding
To hold someone else's weight today.
We offer performance.
Masculinity as ritual,
Not revelation.
We lift heavy, earn hard, speak little,
Then wonder why she feels alone next to us.
We offer half-truths.
Because we were never taught,
How to sit in silence
Without trying to solve it.
So we nod,
Change the subject,
And call it listening.
We offer loyalty- Yes.
But often as a transaction,
Not a surrender.
We offer love,
But sometimes only when it’s convenient,
When we have already figured ourselves out,
When we feel we "deserve" her.
But women aren’t waiting for our readiness.
They are tired of holding space
For men who don’t know how to hold them.
So here’s the quiet heartbreak-
Women keep seeking what men aren't taught to offer.
And men keep offering what women have learned to live without.
You’ve captured the ache so many women carry...the silent yearning for safety that doesn’t suffocate, for love that doesn’t arrive only when it’s easy.
But more than that, you’ve captured the ache many men carry too...the pressure to be enough without ever being taught how to show up emotionally.
Thank you for bleeding a little truth here. For turning your masculinity into revelation, not just ritual.
And maybe, just maybe..if more men dared to write like this, reflect like this, break like this..the cycle might finally shatter.
First of all my gurl, a warm hug to you, i know when you were writing these paras, there was a wound getting scratched everytime you mentioned the man that you want... no one should go through a terrible thing, no one's past should ever be this dark that they still give them nightmares... I know i know nothing was easy, writing this or surviving the past, nothing, but, one day you will get a man who would give a 'garden full of butterflies, and he, himself will assure the safety of that garden', he will love you wholly, for love can't be in 1 tsp or 2 tsp...
But, when the man puts up all the efforts, when he is trying to hear your silence, I want you to be a little easy with him, I want you to take one stept for his every ten steps...
A must post for those who ask 'aakhir aurat ko chaiye kya?'
Not out of curiousity but frustration, women are the simplest creature to ever exist...
Manifesting this kinda partner, cuz either this or nothing!
keep on manifesting. you’ll get your ‘someone’ soon <3
Tathasthu.
Ma’am aapko aapke icchanusaar purush he mile.
Thanks for the blessing yarr <3
This is exactly what girls want. Loved it!
Best and beautiful piece stating clearly what one person wants in partner
Thankssss a lot. Your comments mean a lot.
That's a very kind and affirming sentiment. It highlights the power in clearly articulating what one truly seeks in a partner.
Thanks a lot 😊
I want everything you want along with abs and biceps.
Ahem!! I guess I would want that too. A man having a sexy physique is like a cherry on the cake. We deserve the whole damn dessert. 👀
DAMN RIGHT GIRLIE
You’ve beautifully expressed what every girl's heart silently craves—a love that’s soft, steady, and never adds to our pain,never manipulates. A man who doesn’t shout in our storms but holds us through them. Thank you for putting our deepest feelings into such powerful words. Agreed totally with you.🩷
Thanks a lot <333.
Let us keep hoping that we'll find that ‘someone'.
Thinking a man like this actually exists... yeah, delulu is the only solulu 🫸🏻
Still let’s keep hoping for that someone.
This was wholesome.
thank you soooo much :)
Biceps, any day
Nice one….Madzz 👌👌👌 it's much more informative about girls …
Thanks, Jay. 😊
You are always welcome…Madzz
Text me whenever you are free ….I wld like to talk ta you if you wld like to 👍
I think we can discuss a lot …
Interesting read!!
Most favourite & underrated quality of the men is his ability to be soft & gentle this is the most masculine thing one can have!!!!
You’re sooo right!
Thank God, men like you still exist. Loved your comment! <3
Very well written 🫶🫶
Tysssm <3
It's comforting to see the women positively commenting on this, unlike the men.
Always there gang 🫶
I am firm believer that women manipulate and disrespect more then men. A true masculine man does not need those two to pump up his ego. A man should not change himself for a woman, but he should adapt to certain extent. And I think a woman should learn how to show at least a glimpse of her heart to a man even in her chaos, because you never know what a man is going thru. We do not share that.
Now most of this what you’ve written is beautifully said. Now what a woman is willing to offer in return, for a man to be willing to give all of this?
Do not generalize and paint women as the manipulative ones when emotional suppression in men has been normalized for centuries.
Women do show their hearts in chaos...but too often, it’s dismissed, misunderstood, or used against them.
And sure, a man shouldn’t change for a woman...but if he truly loves, respects, and values her, growth(change) isn’t compromise...it’s connection.
Also, just a reminder: vulnerability isn't a gender trait, it's a human one.
So maybe instead of expecting women to prove softness, let’s start encouraging men to receive it better.
If a man wants to be understood, maybe he should start sharing instead of expecting women to read his silence like a love letter.
Growth goes both ways.
Women aren’t rehab centers for emotionally stunted masculinity.
And lastly, if you give your woman what she wants, she'll fulfill your needs as well.
You kind of missed the point.
The man you're describing is doing the bare minimum of what healthy masculinity should look like being stable, kind, and not manipulative isn't rare, it's basic.
And as for what a woman offers she offers everything if you treat her right.
Her heart, her softness, her loyalty, her chaos, her calm, her dreams, her support, her fire.
But you’ll only see it if you’ve created a space where she feels safe to be all of that.
Maybe the better question iscan you hold space for that kind of love?
The expectations from women was always there.
So much to offer if neither of them stuck with the body 😔
Interesting topic and insightful revelations...Interesting, isn't it? A writer can never be a quiet reader, coz they hear the echo in the pages first not the silence. A writer can't simply consume. They always metabolize. And maybe that’s the cost of becoming the page instead of only turning it.
So here I submit to you the outcome of what you inspired as your piece became a prompt for me.
This is a confession, not a conclusion.
It’s written from a man’s lens...
Which means it's half-blind.
So to the women who read this,
Feel free to disagree, derail, or demand better.
Because what follows next
Is what I have witnessed,
Not all that exists.
What do women seek?
Not just love.
But clarity.
Not just protection.
But a man who doesn't need to be feared to feel powerful.
Women seek presence.
Not proximity.
A man who stays when she’s unraveling...
Not one who mistakes her softness for stability
And bolts when it frays.
They seek a mind that listens
And a heart that doesn’t hide behind intellect.
They seek safety....
Not the kind that locks the doors
But the kind that lets her open hers.
They want to be seen,
Beyond their body,
Yet still desired within it.
To be held,
Not handled.
To be chosen,
Not settled for.
What do men offer?
Too often..
We offer potential.
A someday version of ourselves.
A plan,
A dream,
An ambition,
But rarely the emotional scaffolding
To hold someone else's weight today.
We offer performance.
Masculinity as ritual,
Not revelation.
We lift heavy, earn hard, speak little,
Then wonder why she feels alone next to us.
We offer half-truths.
Because we were never taught,
How to sit in silence
Without trying to solve it.
So we nod,
Change the subject,
And call it listening.
We offer loyalty- Yes.
But often as a transaction,
Not a surrender.
We offer love,
But sometimes only when it’s convenient,
When we have already figured ourselves out,
When we feel we "deserve" her.
But women aren’t waiting for our readiness.
They are tired of holding space
For men who don’t know how to hold them.
So here’s the quiet heartbreak-
Women keep seeking what men aren't taught to offer.
And men keep offering what women have learned to live without.
Until one of us breaks the cycle.
Or both of us bleed trying.
You’ve captured the ache so many women carry...the silent yearning for safety that doesn’t suffocate, for love that doesn’t arrive only when it’s easy.
But more than that, you’ve captured the ache many men carry too...the pressure to be enough without ever being taught how to show up emotionally.
Thank you for bleeding a little truth here. For turning your masculinity into revelation, not just ritual.
And maybe, just maybe..if more men dared to write like this, reflect like this, break like this..the cycle might finally shatter.
Until then, we keep writing. Bleeding.
First of all my gurl, a warm hug to you, i know when you were writing these paras, there was a wound getting scratched everytime you mentioned the man that you want... no one should go through a terrible thing, no one's past should ever be this dark that they still give them nightmares... I know i know nothing was easy, writing this or surviving the past, nothing, but, one day you will get a man who would give a 'garden full of butterflies, and he, himself will assure the safety of that garden', he will love you wholly, for love can't be in 1 tsp or 2 tsp...
But, when the man puts up all the efforts, when he is trying to hear your silence, I want you to be a little easy with him, I want you to take one stept for his every ten steps...
A must post for those who ask 'aakhir aurat ko chaiye kya?'
Not out of curiousity but frustration, women are the simplest creature to ever exist...
And btw...THANK YOU FOR THE LONG COMMENT <333
Your words felt like a warm hug wrapped in understanding. Thank you!!
You read between the lines and held space for both the ache and the hope in my words, and that means more than I can express.
You’ve put kindness back into the question “aurat ko chahiye kya?”...because maybe, all we ever wanted was to feel safe enough to bloom. 🌷💫